Anger In The News

Better To be Happy Than Right

"As we were settling in, my husband looked up and remarked on the cathedral ceiling. The ceiling, which was two stories high, was flat and therefore - to my mind - not cathedral. I suggested that cathedral ceilings had angles and vaults. He disagreed: It was height that mattered. I countered hotly, embarrassed by my husband's denseness in the company of others. Had anyone there ever seen a cathedral with a flat ceiling? We finally requested an encyclopedia. Our hosts smiled nervously. We weren't invited back. And three years later, we weren't married, either."
Full story on a young woman's discovery that it is wise to pick your battles and that sometimes conceding is a good thing, click here

Are Women Angrier Than Men?

New research that examined the responses of 22,000 people over 50 years has found that women are more likely to feel angry and persistently frustrated than men. New study from Scotland.

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Father's Day-What's always important

"June with its Father's Day celebration is a great time to acknwoledge how important dads are in children's lives.

In parent and family events, organizers need to make sure activities are planned with both moms and dads in mind. In parent education, researchers have found that men have special needs: more guidance about connecting with their children and, in a few cases, assistance with anger management. It’s healthy when opportunities can be created that put dads together to talk over issues that concern them."

Complete story in the Murray County News

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Anger management: How to turn negative behavior

"My father was brilliant and charming and funny, a man with a great sense of humor who could answer any question. Of his five children, he openly favored me, and I loved him with all my heart. I feared him just as much.

Anger ruled our home; it was the single most acceptable emotion, and it dominated all the rest. One of my brothers was a peacemaker, another was the lightning rod. I was the watchful one, always alert to the sudden mood change and inevitable explosion.

Growing up surrounded by abusive anger meant always being scared by it. Anger was something you ran from, something you hid from. The idea that such a negative and often violent emotion could be used in a positive way never occurred to me."

Full Story at hometownannapolis.com

Teaching empathy key to helping sibling discord

"My 9 year old has become a real "meanie" toward his 6-year-old brother. He mocks him, teases him and calls him names. Whenever he is with friends he leads them in poking fun of things the 6-year-old cannot do yet. He hurts his brother's feelings and makes me angry. Why is he like this? I have considered sending his friends home when he does it, but don't want to make him more angry at his brother. - Mrs. S , Anna Maria"

Answer and full story in Bradenton Herald Article

Empathy is a core anger management tool for children and adults alike. Resources to learn more about empathy:

Taming The Anger Bee newsletter article (pdf file)
EBook: Anger Management for the Twenty-First Century

Forgiveness: Core Tool for Anger Management

On May 10, 1986, 21 year old Joe Vomvulakis was gunned down in the process of beinfg a Good Samaritan. His brother, Chris, has struggled all these years with trying to forgive his murderer. He says: " Every spiritual tradition, every psychology, every how-to, self-help book, all of them in some way talk about how the energy of forgiveness is healthy, how it is good for you, how it is a good habit. All things considered, there is no downside to forgiveness. In fact, what it does is it creates a new infinite quantum field of possibility in us because it releases the energy of resentment we were holding on to. Some people talk about how forgiveness energy creates in us the potential to be more prosperous. To me, forgiveness is not about forgiving Ken Luther for murdering my brother, but rather it is retaining the wisdom of what I learned through the experience and taking steps at the same time to release the pain that is associated with it." Full story click here.

At Century Anger Management, we teach that "forgiveness" is indeed one of the 8 core tools of anger management. You forgive for your mental health and peace of mind, not for the benefit of those toward whom you have a grievance. To learn the steps of forgiveness, download or purchase our new book "Anger Management for the twenty-first centuy - the eight tools of anger control."

Anger Doesn't Work With Children

Anger simply doesn't work most of the time in terms of influencing the behavior of others - especially your children. As we teach in our anger management classes, the purpose of anger expression is usually to get your children to do something, but it is ineffective and has many negattive consequences. In short, there is a huge downside with little upside in terms of changing things.

The best analogy I've read lately explaining why anger doesn't work as discipline technique is provided by Dr. Dobson, president of the nonprofit organization "Focus On the Family." In this article he says that disciplinary action influences behavior; anger does not. We fully agree with this position. What do you think? Read it here

Kids Live In A World of Anger

Why are some children so angry? Here are some clues as to how they may be learning to express thier normal angry feelings:

• By middle school, chidlren have seen more than 100,000 acts of aggression or violence on television
• A recent AAA study showed nearly 90% of motorists hace experienced an aggressive driving incident within the past year. Many of these incidents were witnessed by children.
• According to the National Youth Prevention Resource Center, 11% of children in grades 6 to 10 say they have been the victims of bullies, and 13% report bullying others.

For a full report on how children live in a culture of anger, and related stories, click here.

For help with anger management before it starts affecting your children, visit angercoach.com or AJNovick group sites.

Children More Angry Than Ever

Children have always gotten mad. They've whined and threatened and held their breath and slammed doors. But experts warn - largely without heed - that there is a new, explosive brand of anger in children today, and that it is being manifested in far more dangerous and self-destructive ways.Full story click here.

We strongly believe in anger management training and classes for adolescents as well as adults. Learning to cope with feelings, stress, life obstacles and frustrations are important life-skills needed to do well in your personal life, in the workplace and in your community. In Southern California, a resource for teenage anger management is the AJ Novick group in Laguna Beach. Click here for link.